Personally, I LOVED this interview and I am going to check out her new book. Women can have not only a creative renaissance after they have a child, they can also start asking themselves WHO they were BEFORE that child came along. I have found that when I ask myself what I want, and care less about what my children are up to, I alleviate some of the stress and tediousness around the every day. If I have my eye on a larger goal for myself, that purpose / meaning / direction for my nervous energy – creates a kind of inner calm. I will also be less affected by a tantrum, take it less personally, not react as if my world was crumbling alongside of theirs. Having a project or some creative outlet to chip away at every day, gives me confidence, and I can respond much better to stress when I have a boost from doing something nice for myself. I feel a new Substack post coming on! Thank you for this wonderful and honest content!
I love these interviews for the most part, but today’s is disturbing to me. I worry that normalizing “rage” as a society creates more harm than good. I began reading this book as I can relate to these moments of anger, a feeling of not being a good mother, and losing my cool. After the first chapter, I had to stop reading this book because it was frankly too upsetting. The author describes her kid hitting his head on the ground, “maybe I pushed too hard” (MAYBE?). This loss of control in the author’s behavior should not be considered typical or okay. There is no “maybe” here, and the refusal to take responsibility for causing one’s child physical harm was upsetting. AS MOTHERS, we are responsible for our actions despite externalities that put pressure on us.
As parents, we are stewards of unique and beautiful and, yes, sometimes difficult children who look to us for safety. The long-lasting impacts of childhood trauma affect not just our children’s health but society’s health as a whole. While I appreciate this interview’s insight on creativity and motherhood, I am concerned about normalizing rage toward anyone, particularly rage towards children. If anyone feels this type of rage, please reach out to any support network you have, such as friends, partners, neighbors, other parents, therapists, and psychiatrists.
Mom Rage is a brave book. The exhaustion and intensity of motherhood these days without a village or the kind of support we all ought to have is truly challening and it's brave of Minna to put this out there! Thanks for highlighting this book. And Minna you're super brave to weather the storm!
Personally, I LOVED this interview and I am going to check out her new book. Women can have not only a creative renaissance after they have a child, they can also start asking themselves WHO they were BEFORE that child came along. I have found that when I ask myself what I want, and care less about what my children are up to, I alleviate some of the stress and tediousness around the every day. If I have my eye on a larger goal for myself, that purpose / meaning / direction for my nervous energy – creates a kind of inner calm. I will also be less affected by a tantrum, take it less personally, not react as if my world was crumbling alongside of theirs. Having a project or some creative outlet to chip away at every day, gives me confidence, and I can respond much better to stress when I have a boost from doing something nice for myself. I feel a new Substack post coming on! Thank you for this wonderful and honest content!
I love these interviews for the most part, but today’s is disturbing to me. I worry that normalizing “rage” as a society creates more harm than good. I began reading this book as I can relate to these moments of anger, a feeling of not being a good mother, and losing my cool. After the first chapter, I had to stop reading this book because it was frankly too upsetting. The author describes her kid hitting his head on the ground, “maybe I pushed too hard” (MAYBE?). This loss of control in the author’s behavior should not be considered typical or okay. There is no “maybe” here, and the refusal to take responsibility for causing one’s child physical harm was upsetting. AS MOTHERS, we are responsible for our actions despite externalities that put pressure on us.
As parents, we are stewards of unique and beautiful and, yes, sometimes difficult children who look to us for safety. The long-lasting impacts of childhood trauma affect not just our children’s health but society’s health as a whole. While I appreciate this interview’s insight on creativity and motherhood, I am concerned about normalizing rage toward anyone, particularly rage towards children. If anyone feels this type of rage, please reach out to any support network you have, such as friends, partners, neighbors, other parents, therapists, and psychiatrists.
Mom Rage is a brave book. The exhaustion and intensity of motherhood these days without a village or the kind of support we all ought to have is truly challening and it's brave of Minna to put this out there! Thanks for highlighting this book. And Minna you're super brave to weather the storm!